I’ve been away for a while, but I’ve done a lot of soul-searching and thinking and I feel like I have more to share so here I am. Quite a while ago, I wrote a post about gym shaming and said that I felt not quite supported at a workout studio where I had a membership. I haven’t gone there in over a year, but recently returned and feel really great about it.
First of all, I had taken 99 classes at this studio and at class 100, you get a special reward. I got several emails reminding me that I only needed that one class to reach the 100 milestone. They also offered me a free class to get to 100 along with several other enticements. At the time, I wasn’t ready to go back so I didn’t take them up on their offer.
Fast forward to 10 months after the last class I took, I got another email from the new manager of the studio. She was very upbeat and really wanted to help me reach the 100 milestone, I decided that it was time to go back and reach that goal. During the time I was away from that studio, I found that when I took other classes at other studios or gyms, I always used the strategies I learned at that studio. I also realized that they had a much more personalized approach because if you were doing a move incorrectly or were using the wrong form, they would help you with your form or help you modify if you couldn’t do a particular move. Instructors at other studios and gyms didn’t always do that. I also felt that I had much better form when doing the other classes because of methods I was taught at that studio.
I went back for my 100th class several weeks ago and I was welcomed back with open arms. Instructors that were there when I last took classes were still there and they were happy to see me. I told them that it was almost a year since I was there and they couldn’t believe it. My husband bought me a gift card for the studio for Valentine’s Day and when he was buying it, another instructor asked where I had been and told him to say hello to me. It made me feel so happy and supported. I think that it was a great decision to return both for my body health and mental health.
I didn’t realize how much I missed it until I left and returned. I didn’t realize how supported I actually was until I went elsewhere and didn’t get any type of feedback. I also realized that my workout is MY workout and as long as I am feeling good about what I am doing, it doesn’t matter what others think. Seeking outside approval gives others all the power and then you become dependent on outside sources for validation. Your self-worth is all up to you and you need to embrace what you are doing, live in the moment and be grateful for all you can do.