I just finished reading YOU ARE A BAD ASS by Jen Sincero. It’s subtitle is “How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life”. I have read a lot about personal mantras and You Are a Bad Ass is a book in which I have found daily mantras in order to start doubting my greatness and start living an awesome life.
“This is about believing, even when things are at their most uncertain or absolute crappiest, that there is a bright shiny flipside within your reach.” (Sincero, 2013, p.34)
When we are in our darkest moments, it can be very hard to believe that we will ever drag ourselves out and be positive again. Hence, my first mantra should be…There is ALWAYS a shiny flipside.
“It never ceases to amaze me the precious time we spend chasing the squirrels around our brains,…dissecting the lives of idiots, when we are sitting in the middle of a full-blown miracle that is happening right here, right now.” (Sincero, 2013, p.36)
I am so guilty of this, especially with the onslaught of posts on our Facebook feed each day. I have unfollowed a lot of “friends” because they made me feel jealous or out of shape or wishing I had more money. STOP!!! Those people’s lives are not important and comparison to them is ridiculous. I feel so much better now and I am working on being more present in what is what is happening to me right now. “Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life.” (Sincero, 2013, p.61) is an especially relevant mantra.
“Holding on to my bad feelings about this is doing nothing but harming me, and everyone else, preventing me from enjoying my life fully. I am an awesome person. I choose to enjoy life. I choose to let this go.” (Sincero, 2013, p. 62)
Just like the song in Frozen…Let it go!! Let it go!!! Festering on something that is happening just saps your energy, makes you grumpy and unhappy and, hence, makes those around you uncomfortable. You ARE a good person and I AM a good person, therefore, a suitable mantra probably should be…Let it go and enjoy life!
“Do not fall prey to the false belief that by forgiving someone you’re letting them off the hook. Because when you forgive someone you let yourself off the hook.” (Sincero, 2013, p.123)
I know that this is absolutely true and it is the best thing that I can do for myself. Holding on to negative energy can make you sick, stressed out, unhappy, lethargic…in addition to other ailments. As I am typing this, I just had a huge A-HA moment. It says to forgive, but it doesn’t say you have to forget about what happened. This is definitely something that I struggle with. I know that the resentment I feel isn’t good for my soul. Consequently, I can forgive, but I will not forget. As a result, a fitting mantra is…Let yourself off the hook.
“Set honest goals that are just outside your comfort zone and build from there.” (Sincero, 2013, p.238) I LOVE this. Don’t make these HUGE, hard to attain goals. Move forward in small increments and you will reach those goals and feel a sense of success. Finally, a mantra for this quote should be…Go just outside your comfort zone.
In conclusion, no compensation or products have been exchanged for this post. I enjoyed this book and wanted to share it with others since it was helpful to me. What books are you reading that have given you an A-HA moment? I’d love to hear from you.
Here is author Jen Sincero letting it go and enjoying life:)